How to Start a Conversation with a BBW You’re Interested In

Learning hot to start a conversation with a bbw like this is critical

Figuring out how to start a conversation with a BBW you are attracted to can be a nerve-racking experience.

Beginning any conversation with a complete stranger can cause you to say and do some awkward things – until you feel comfortable around that individual.

So, sit back, take a deep breath, and read all about our tips on how to get that conversation going and not screw it all up.

You can use these tips in person or online (check out our rankings of the best BBW dating sites to get started)

We will have you prepared to approach communication with a gorgeous BBW in a friendly, natural and successful manner.

How To Start a Conversation With a BBW and be Successful

The dress rehearsal for talking to a BBW is almost as important as the actual meet.

Preparation is key to success with a BBW

Like with most events in your life, it is important to prepare what you are going to say to this woman.

Not only does your opening line need to be good, but the conversation that follows this as well.

How to start a conversation with a BBW is a little like preparing for a classroom debate.

You should have an idea of the topic, but know that an unexpected word or sentence in reply could throw your rehearsed plan off course.

So, be prepared, do a little research on her, but don’t be so stiff and stuck on what you are going to say that you become just an actor reciting a script.

Not only will you sound completely phony, but you won’t be flexible enough to shift gears when she changes the subject on you.

If you don’t know anything about her in order to search info, then list up a few options on general topics to discuss.

See our list of questions towards the end of this article to help you.

First impressions matter with your big beautiful woman

The version of yourself that you initially present to this lovely BBW counts, and will be the way she will view you moving forward.

So, let your first impression be a happy one – smile.

Being friendly is a great way to initiate contact.

Asking if you can sit down is a great way to start up a conversation too.

Or whether you can buy her a drink, no matter if it is a coffee or an alcoholic beverage.

Complements can work if you know how to use them

Complements never grow old, but make sure they are genuine.

The way you say it will make all the difference.

If the complement is about her eyes, keep the eye contact.

If the complement is about her dress, make sure you tell her she makes the dress look good and not just a flat “That is a nice dress.”

You just complemented the dress, and not her.

In fact, avoid the word ‘nice’ completely.

The English language is made up of much more colorful and passionate adjectives than ‘nice’.

And make sure the complements are not too frequent either.

Too much of anything is going to grow old and start to sound false.

Consider keeping the complements to one in the beginning, one in the middle, and one at the end.

Don’t repeat your complements, unless you tell her later in the evening, “You know you really do have stunning eyes.  I can’t get over them.”

Even a genuine comment like, “You have a wonderful smile” could be a nice opener.

It will keep her smiling if she knows you like her smile.

Eye contact can make or break you

Making eye contact is vital when learning how to start a conversation with a BBW.

The eyes speak volumes and if you can communicate your intentions with a look, you have won half the battle.

Keeping eye contact builds trust, shows confidence and conveys that you are interested in what she is saying and doing.

Don’t let your eyes wander away.

Wandering eyes may indicate to her that there is somewhere else you would rather be, and maybe even someone else you find more intriguing in the same room.

Keep your approach natural

Going in for a hug first time round can be awkward, unless she hugs you first.

A simple, firm, but warm handshake will always be a good greeting.

And if you place your other hand over hers, it will add that little bit of intimacy.

If you are meeting in a public place, make a suggestion to sit somewhere to chat.

Please be a gentleman and hold her chair out for her.

Stay relaxed and stop worrying

This is just talking to a woman – it is definitely not the end of the world.

The worst that could happen is she isn’t interested in continuing on with you, which in that case is doing you a favor, because you can move onto a BBW that loves you for you.

Don’t treat talking to her like your entire life depends on it.

If you absolutely have to, admitting that you are nervous could also ease the situation, show her that you are honest and allow her the chance to express that she is a little anxious too.

The conversation between you and a sexy BBW

If you did your homework beforehand, you will know what she likes.

Starting off with a, “So, you’re interested in …” will be a good icebreaker.

This will get her talking and if you see she still needs some encouragement, then keep asking her questions.

Or better yet, tell her a story about someone who had the same interest as her.

If you don’t know anything about her, then ask her what her interests are.

If her interests don’t seem to be the same as yours, then ask her to tell you why she is keen on that sport, hobby or whatever it is she likes.

But whatever you do, do not – I repeat – do not criticize her interests. because you may end the evening before it really gets a chance to get started.

Monopolizing the conversation can hurt you

Don’t take the entire conversation captive.

Let her lead unless she isn’t a big talker – in that case keep asking questions.

It is okay to talk about yourself, but don’t carry on and on.

Mention an interesting fact about yourself and then ask her something in return.

Hold her attention with positive enthusiasm

Many BBWs who have had negative dating experiences are not used to receiving positive attention, and in many cases the attention that they have gotten has been unwanted or even cruel.

So, when you pay attention to her, be sincere.

Show her you are really interested in her and what she has to say.

Giving her the spotlight on center stage of your attention span will help provide her with the confidence to express herself and share personal details that will help you determine the areas that you both have in common.

You don’t have to be a loud mouth or perform a bunch of animated antics to hold her attention.

Just let her talk about herself and provide her with encouraging and genuine responses.

How to start a conversation with a BBW through questions

Open-ended questions are great because they give you a chance to ask something new afterwards.

Sometimes a topic can go on for too long and you can get stuck on it.

Here are a few initial questions to ask:

“Do you live in the area?”

“Where did you grow up?”

“How long have you been on this dating website?”

“Have you had any luck so far meeting someone nice?”

“What line of work are you in?”

“How long have you been involved in your career?”

Once you have gotten the “getting to know each other” questions out of the way, try some of these:

“If you could go anywhere on holiday, where would it be?”

“What was the last good book that you have read?”

“What are your hobbies?”

“Tell me about your worst date?”

“Tell me about your best date?”